Do you ever wonder why you
think, feel and react the way you do? Why some people can be so calm in certain
situations and you tend to fly off the handle (and then feel terribly guilty or
ashamed? Or not…). Or how you get
anxious over the smallest things, while others don’t seem fazed in the least?
Well, rest assured, you are
not alone in dealing with unruly emotions. All of us have a barometer for how
we react. This barometer is created by a lifetime, perhaps lifetimes (?), of
lessons, and also of our personal biology. We create filters based on what we
have learned from experiences that help us form the reactions that will keep us
safe. We have our neurotransmitters in our brain that help us to make sense of
things too. We consist of a body and something more. There are many theories
out there about the “more”, and I have often pontificated on what that “more”
may actually be. But alas, until the breath leaves my body, I will not know for
sure. Everything beyond that moment of reckoning is all faith—what feels like a
“truth” to us. Often based on what beliefs have been passed down through the
generations, through ritual and dogma. Beliefs that came together to help keep
us safe, unified, bonded as clansmen and women for the good of the “tribe”.
But, I digress… although this post touches on beliefs, because our beliefs often
spur on our reactionary selves, it is not the ultimate point, today anyway.
We have four main
neurotransmitters in our brain that help us function and that also dictate
quite a bit of our personality. For example, if you have a dominant Dopamine
neurotransmitter, you may find yourself to be very powerful in physical and
mental ways, fast and with a quick wit and tongue. You tend to be a strong-minded
person who knows what you want out of life, and how to deliver. If you
determine yourself to be Acetylcholine dominant, you may find yourself to be
very sensory oriented, creative, and open-minded. You may find that you always
are thinking about how your actions may affect the other person, and being
considerate of them in the process. You have a strong intuition and an
innovative nature! The GABA nature is one of stability, calmness, dependability
and direction. It is easy for you to organize and maintain a proper schedule
for accomplishing things. You may tend to speak more thoughtfully and softly
then some of the other natures. And lastly, the Serotonin nature tends to be
very adept at Carpe Diem! You enjoy activities and manifesting change,
reinventing the wheel sometimes, and often finding a better and more amusing
way of doing it!
All of us have all of these
parts to us. We need all of our neurotransmitters to function properly to keep
us balanced and vital. And, sometimes they go a bit wonky. So, what do we do if
they aren’t in balance? What happens to us? Well, that is when symptoms of
dysfunction and disease start to appear. Our bodies are machines that need a
certain combination of nutrition, minerals, hormones, exercise, human touch,
love and validation, and much more. When we aren’t getting the needs met,
systems start slipping. My reference for all of this information is called The
Edge Effect, by Dr. Eric Braverman M.D. He is a neurologist that has
extensively studied the brain and I highly recommend getting this book and
reading it. Take the quiz in it and learn about who you are and what can help
you absolutely thrive in this life.
When our neurotransmitters
are out of balance, or wonky, as I like to playfully call it, sometimes we may get
a bit sharper in our tone… things may feel more personal… you may feel lonely
or sad… you may not be able to sleep well… or poop well… or have chronic
headaches… The symptoms that may show up are different for everyone and Dr.
Braverman outlines possible cause and effect in his book. It’s worth some time
to get the biology in order, bee-caause… it’s hard to purge anxiety with any
modality if your GABA isn’t functioning well on a biological level.
If you’ve determined that
your biology is in good working order, and you still feel like you aren’t
operating as well as you should or could, you may want to dive into some personal
history and start exploring what you consciously
remember that may be contributing to your unruly emotions. And then you may
want to dive into the subconscious mind
to look for the drivers that are feeding them.
If you choose some guidance
and you decide to work one on one with me, we will clear the drivers from a very
deep level using a technique called MER Therapy that I learned from developer,
Dr. Matt James. This method gets deep into the layers of who we are now, and
perhaps who we have been in the past, as well as, who we are from our ancestors
and how they have contributed to the beautiful mess that makes up our
individuality. We may use some hypnotherapy or NLP techniques to also clear the
limiting beliefs and decisions that aren’t serving us. I may dive into my “toolbox”
for some unusual ways to help you clear that which is not serving you.
We all have an interesting make
up of genes and emotions and baggage. We all get to dive into the bodies we
were given and we can learn to let go of the judgment, the fears and the
hostility and just embrace our lives, the lessons, the spunk and the funk, and
learn to live fully and authentically as we were created.
I hope that you will find joy
in the holiday season, in whatever capacity your beliefs take you. You are love
and are loved. Be gentle with yourself and let your mind be free to
possibilities!
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